Well the other day someone posted a sign over the sink in the flat share I live in. It essentially says:
"Apropos... washing up: For some time dirty dishes stacks regularly in our kitchen. Buzzword from the newspaper: quality of living. Please: 1) Ask yourself why 2) Ask yourself if you are possibly responsible for the situation that at least bothers one of your flatmates 3) What about you washing your own dishes yourself? => no annoying, nasty stacks 4) Problems can potentially have to do with different socializations - but because a clean kitchen is subjectively and objectively better: WASH UP! Even if it bothers you less because of your socialization.
It made me thinking. Not only about the dirty dishes but about why people are different. And really socialization is one of the biggest factors that makes people different. Your socialization is what you learned growing up and living your life, from your peers and your friends, what your parents told you not to do and you decided to do nevertheless.
However what if you want to change, and by change I mean big changes like traveling fulltime, deliberately living of unemployment benefits (which is possible in Germany) or dying your hair blue. Stuff that most of your peers wouldn't agree with, not even to speak of your parents or even grandparents. We'll it can be hard but it doesn't have to be.
The saying "You're the average of the five people you spend most time with." is mostly true, so if your peer group consists of five average people, well guess what it will be very hard for you to be remarkable. But now what if you manage to surround yourself with exceptional people? It will be a lot easier four you to be extraordinary!
So go out and surround yourself by some really exceptional people! "Re-"socialize yourself! and: Do your own dishes!
Photo is, well the sign over the sink. Most of it is in German.
Yesterday I went to CeBIT, which is Europe's main IT-Fair. I didn't go alone but with my friends Tsia and Arno; Arno's brother was also there. So we went checking the booths out, a lot of them are more oriented towards IT professionals than people like me (I have to say that Tsia and Arno are IT professionals though). So obviously the first hall we were in was aimed at governments, companies that need security equipment and banks, they had stuff like money counting machines, e-Passport control gates and stuff like that.
Then we came near a booth, which had quite a lot of people in front of it. The first thing I noticed that they demoed a system that scans peoples fingerprints. Many people unreluctantly put their hands on the machine to have their fingerprints scanned, something, which I would have never done with my true fingerprints (if your interested in how to fake fingerprints tell me, maybe that’s some material for a future post). Who knows what the company does with the data - if it somehow would be leaked everyone could go out and commit crimes leaving your fingerprints. So I already thought that was quite scary.
But then I noticed the other thing they had on display: A "visitor management system" as they called it or an "automatic face recognition for CCTV system" as I would have called it, that also can tell you the age, gender and happiness of the people in the picture. They had a camera filming everyone in front of the booth and a big screen displaying the picture overlaid with the analysis of their software. I heard of such systems before and that they might be used to analyze material the police films at demonstrations afterwards. Really scary stuff, as it could be used to very easily identify everyone taking part in a demonstration and also to find out at which other demonstrations or other CCTV-covered places they were filmed. 1984 at it's best.
But notice that I said it could be used. The thing is really it can't be used for anything like that, because well let's say it's in reality very buggy software. It shows you how happy the person is, it's age with a big tolerance, gender, unique id and how long the person has been in the picture. I noticed that my gender jumped from male to female and back all the time and it was the same with the age. The only thing it got right most of the time is my happiness, e.g. it noticed the difference between a smiling and a sad face, but that’s really nothing new, because this technology is already used in customer products like compact digital cameras that shoot a picture when the people in the frame smile. But the best thing was that I could get a new id assigned to my face by shaking my head and hair around a bit. Not that scary, after all.
People go through life pretending they’re doing things for themselves, but really, we all know that people do things because it’s what they THINK they should be doing.
They do things because society, family, friends, or work expects it of them. They dress a certain way to fit in with their friends or workplace standards. They go out to places because it’s where their friends like to go. They get involved with people that their friends and/or family would like them to be involved with.
Acceptance is very important to people, and the only way to be accepted by a group is to be like that group.